Shyness In Children, Toddlers And Adolescence

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Shyness is often more of an issue for parents than it is for children. Many parents feel they have somehow failed because their children aren’t sparkling like all other kids.  For some toddlers, shyness can be a big hurdle to overcome. They hide behind their parents legs when some, familiar or unfamiliar person approaches them. And there is nothing wrong with that.

It is very important to first understand that such kind of shyness is not a problem in itself. It is rather a reflection of something else that is going on in the child’s mid. Here are few of them.

Fear of strangers: Or what we call stranger anxiety. Some children are simply too scared of unfamiliar people. Such children find it extremely difficult to interact with those who are either complete stranger or occasional visitors.
Analysis of situation: ‘Look before you leap’ is the motto of some children. Children, who are very sensitive to their own and to other’s feelings, generally find it difficult to be impulsive and prefer to look at things for a distance, analyze the details and then cautiously inch forward. Unfortunately, by the time they feel comfortable to go ahead, the push from people fades. Then they have no choice but to stay back.

Fear of uncertainty: Some children like to be sure what is happening next. They prefer a routine over an unstructured day.  They throw fewer tantrums if they are told things that are told things that going to happen and when they meet someone, they are fine. But when they meet with some one unexpectedly, they retreat because they are not metal prepared for that meeting. 
Some children are just not wired to be social butterflies. If this is the case in our child, then we need to accept a little bit of shyness in our kid. Some shyness here and there could be coming from small influence of each of the reason mentioned above. That is something not to be worried about. Most shyness in toddler years is developmental. And its often the case that the shyness will gradually lessen as the child grows, gains experience and builds confidence. Even then here are some ways to get the young one out of shyness….